Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Self-control.... ANYONE?

I recently came across this article,2933,538701,00.html?test=latestnews

Sorry, I can't seem to figure out how to make it look all pretty...

I have heard this argument before, primarily in more charismatic circles. Sex is a temptation, yes. But I have found that catchy phrases (true love waits, for example), deal with the symptom rather than what is underlying it.

My husband and I didn't get everything right, so please don't jump down my throat in saying that I have NO idea what I am talking about. When you treat sex, having sex, not having sex, getting married so that you can have sex, as the only issue, then you are missing the point.

What ever happened to living a holy life?

To self-control?

To having God be the focus of your relationship?

I think the young woman quoted at the end of the article has it right.

Is God in control of the relationship, or not? Or are we so focused on getting our own needs met that we lose sight of Him and focus instead on what WE want RIGHT NOW?


  1. PIP,

    There are a whole lot of things that should be dealt with a long time before things get so serious. Modesty, purity of heart, consideration for others, etc. But like you said the most important is the Holiness of God and His desire for us to live holy lives.

    But I do agree that parents and even the church act like getting married young is a sin. Their demands to wait for college and careers is foolish and asking for trouble. It comes right along with wait about having children until you can afford it. Ha! If you wait until you can afford them, you will never have children. You can never afford something priceless; children are blessings not financial burdens.

    Berean Wife

  2. Hi, Berean Wife!

    I have mixed opinions on the marrying young, not marrying young thing. Personally, I don't think it is wrong to marry young, but don't get married young only to say that you didn't have sex before marriage. That's a foolish reason to get married.

    Ironically, I understand the desire to wait until after college to marry... probably because I waited until after Bible school to seriously continue dating my now-husband.

    Thanks for the input!

  3. PIP,

    I have to think that marrying young is actually what the Lord intends for most of us. Even young widow women are told to remarry and bear children. Very few are called to a lifetime of singleness. And marrying in order not to sin is quite Biblical.

    1 Corinthians 7:9 But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to be aflame with passion. ESV

    Berean Wife

  4. never thought of that, BW.. thanks for the insight!