Self-control.... ANYONE?

I recently came across this article

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,538701,00.html?test=latestnews

Sorry, I can't seem to figure out how to make it look all pretty...

I have heard this argument before, primarily in more charismatic circles. Sex is a temptation, yes. But I have found that catchy phrases (true love waits, for example), deal with the symptom rather than what is underlying it.

My husband and I didn't get everything right, so please don't jump down my throat in saying that I have NO idea what I am talking about. When you treat sex, having sex, not having sex, getting married so that you can have sex, as the only issue, then you are missing the point.

What ever happened to living a holy life?

To self-control?

To having God be the focus of your relationship?

I think the young woman quoted at the end of the article has it right.

Is God in control of the relationship, or not? Or are we so focused on getting our own needs met that we lose sight of Him and focus instead on what WE want RIGHT NOW?